Jess Reiche


Hugs of Grace

Some days are just not good days. Moms, you know which ones I’m talking about. The ones that start with crying for no reason, sibling fights, spilled juice, potty accidents, melt downs, thrown toys and begging for TV, all before lunch.


You frustratedly grit your teeth and ask why the child is crying for absolutely no reason.

You scream down the hall for the kids to stop fighting.

You clean up the juice as your eyes begin to roll on their own.

You sigh over the accident had as your child still claims she doesn’t have to go potty.

You begin sobbing as the melt downs begin.

You want to throw toys right along side your toddler’s temper tantrum.

You’re tempted to put the kids in front of the TV just to get the begging to stop.

We’ve all been there. Many of us do this on a daily basis.


But after all of those emotional responses are made, how horrible does it feel? How drained are you? How much are you dreading the rest of the day and counting down until bedtime?

What if it didn’t have to be that way? I’m not promising things will change…but the truth is, it’s worth a try isn’t it?


More than likely change will only happen because of your actions, not your kids. Kids are kids and they react to your reactions. So things build and build and get worse and worse until YOU break the cycle.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t disciple and train your kids. I’m saying we need to extend grace and get our emotions out of the way. We need to control ourselves and look at the situation for what it is. We need to discipline out of the desire to help our children, not punish them. We need to guide them to make right decisions and make sure they know when they’re going the wrong way. We need to teach. And train. And we need to help them understand grace.

Sometimes, we just need to stop reacting and start acting out of love.

The hard truth is that there are parents out there losing their children every day. Whether it be car accidents, sickness, weather-related incidents or anything in between, kids are dying and I doubt their parents regret any moments they acted out of love. I bet they would do anything for another melt down in the middle of Target or artistic masterpiece on their newly painted walls.

Are those actions acceptable? Absolutely not. But maybe those are the times we should be stern and upset so that we can let the little things go easier. Not EVERY moment has to be a teachable moment. Sometimes we should just give them a hug and kiss and be grateful for those little precious moments that go so fast.  They need to know that we love them, even when they’re bad. They need to feel the grace that God extends us on a daily basis. The love. The acceptance. The peace in knowing that mistakes aren’t always punished.

As a parent it’s hard to pick and choose when to discipline and when to extend hugs of grace. Every day we’re learning, just as they are. And sometimes God disciplines us and lets us know when we made a wrong decision. And sometimes he extends us hugs of grace because we just can’t handle another thing gone wrong. Let us learn from our heavenly father where the balance is.

Will you join me in this crazy journey? Let’s make the decision to give every day a new try with a clean heart free from emotional chaos. Let’s let a few things go that we usually yell about. Let’s choose to hug and cuddle when no one can handle another tear. And let’s teach our kids what grace is by our actions and our words — because that’s really what some days are all about.

Comments (2)

  1. caitlin

    Absolutely love this post

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